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Dylan Sada. (INSTAGRAM/dylan_sada)

EDITOR : FIRZA ARIFIEN

20 Maret 2018, 07:00 WIB

AMERIKA SERIKAT

Dylan Sada, seorang model asal Indonesia yang berkarir di Amerika Serikat kini sedang menjadi perbincangan. Bukan karena kisahnya sebagai model, melainkan karena kasus kekerasan yang menimpanya.

Perempuan bernama asli Aldila Wulandari tersebut mengalami kekerasan fisik yang dilakukan oleh mantan kekasihnya di apartemen miliknya di kawasan Brooklyn, New York, Amerika Serikat. Hal ini menjadi viral saat model yang sudah menetap di Amerika sejak 2007 tersebut menunjukkan dampak kekerasan yang ia alami dalam video dan tulisan yang ia unggah ke Instagram.

 

I have a confession to make, I have been keeping this a secret for as long as I can remember. So much had happened that I think this is the right time to finally confess. I was sexually abused by my biological father when I was young, it's hard to believe that I still remember it, clearly. I knew it was wrong even then and there but I was young, I was afraid and ashamed to reach out to anyone, so I buried it. Growing up with such memories were hard, especially being back home where such things were considered a taboo, that is also another reason why I left my country at a young age to forget about it in hopes I can move on. I can't deny that it affected me greatly. I turned to alcohol and drugs, anything that can make me feel something. I'm not proud of it but it is what it is. I never understood why people look up to me, I feel like I'm fooling everyone. I was a mess, just trying to achieve my dreams and forget about my pain. It doesn't matter how fucked up I get or beautiful places I go, I hated that he is in my blood and he made me. My pain caused more pain when I fell into severe depression, for the longest time I was stuck. I couldn't create, I couldn't move forward, it feels like I'm stuck in limbo. It affected my first marriage, I lost many good friends along the way because I hated myself so much I couldn't accept love and help. I was destructive and I still am. I went through five failed suicide attempts, I hung myself about a month ago, but two people saved me. My boyfriend saved me, he has been there for me since I met him. I was so close but I guess it just wasn't my time again. I did that because I was tired, the idea of dying is such a release from living, coping with pain almost every day. Suicide may sound selfish to you, but if you suffered it for so long it's a different story. The only reason why I'm speaking up now is that I feel like I have to. I'm Indonesian, I'm proud to be Indonesian but unfortunately, mental health is often shrugged back home and it is an issue that is not openly talked about. I cannot stress enough how important this issue is, we need to be ok to talk about it, you should never be embarrassed if you are. (continued↓)

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Ditemui oleh tim Voice of America (VOA) di Amerika, model yang sudah menghiasi sejumlah majalah internasional tersebut menjelaskan kronologi kekerasan yang ia alami. 

"Awalnya, saya mencoba berbicara dengan pacar saya karena ia berbicara kasar. Tiba-tiba perut saya ditendang. Lalu kekerasan berlanjut, saya enggak pernah setakut itu dan akhirnya saya telepon polisi. Tetangga juga menelepon polisi karena sangat gaduh," jelas Dylan.

"Saat saya posting video itu saya lagi sakit ya, enggak mikir begitu keluar dari rumah sakit, mama pasti melihatnya dan pasti akan merasa sedih. Keluar dari rumah sakit, mama telepon saya dan saya tidak pernah mendengar mama menangis seperti itu," tambahnya.

Kondisi fisik Dylan sudah pulih berkat bantuan penggalangan dana pengobatan dari para sahabat. Dylan yang berencana kembali ke Indonesia untuk bertemu dengan keluarganya memiliki pesan khusus untuk wanita Indonesia yang mungkin mengalami hal yang sama.

"Para wanita Indonesia, kalau kamu mengalami hal seperti ini, jangan takut karena kamu enggak sendiri. Kejadian seperti ini nyata dan kamu tidak harus merasa malu. Harus berani berbicara karena itu sakit sekali. Aku tahu rasanya sendiri, rasanya enggak bisa ngomong ke orang karena malu. Yang pasti ada jalannya, pertama ngomong sama teman, ngomong sama keluarga, coba bicara," papar Dylan.

"Jangan disembunyikan karena sakit sekali, saya tahu benar rasanya. Apalagi kalau kamu sayang dengan orangnya, akan lebih susah lagi. Bicara dengan orang, pasti ada jalan dan pertolongan," pungkasnya.

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